“If your best friends are the first people you contact to get drunk and go out, but NOT among the first people you contact when you need prayer warriors, then you need New Best Friends”
Our lives are drastically influenced by the friends we have and the company we keep. Friends hold, unconsciously and consciously, a significant amount of influence in the decisions we make throughout our lives. Along with family, friends can shape our behaviors, how we act, and sometimes what we believe. Some can have good influences on us whereas others can affect our lives in the wrong way. This is why the friends you keep are just as important and the people you do not hang around with.
Having friends who do not have the same beliefs, as you can be dangerous in your growth as a Christian. We are cautioned numerous times to steer clear of “friends” who may lead us astray. The Bible says, “Don’t be deceived: bad company corrupts good character.” (1 Corinthians 15:33), and “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm” (Proverbs 13:20). We are not to associate with people who entice us to do wrong, no matter how appealing their “friendship” may seem to be. By entertaining individuals who are bad company, you are risking the chance of picking up their negative qualities and habits. Those who “rush to sin” should be avoided. The old phrase “if you hang with dogs, you will catch fleas” is very accurate.
Some tend to argue that instead of unrighteous friends bringing them down, they are helping their unrighteous companions up. While in some cases this kind of relationship does workout, I warn that it is much harder to pull someone deep in sin up, than it is for them to bring you down. Imagine standing in a chair and trying to bring someone up to your level. It is easier for them to pull you down to the ground than it is for you to pull them up. They have the force of the floor helping them. That is the struggle we face. More than likely, you have struggled with sin longer than you have been saved. If you are not rock solid in your faith and beliefs, it is hard to go against someone with years of expertise and practice in sin. They have the sturdiness of the ground (years of experience with sin) to help pull you down. In order to pull someone up, make sure your chair, a.k.a your faith, is bolted to the ground and cannot be shaken.
Having true friends are vital to our growth and maturity as Christians. All of us are more consistent in our faith when others walk with us and encourage us. Friends share our burdens, share our joys, counsel us, and are our confidants. As Rick Warren once stated, “You need more than the bible to grow, you need other believers. We grow faster and stronger by learning from each other and being accountable to each other” (The Purpose Driven Life). God made humans relational beings. Not only does He want us to be in a relationship with Him, He wants us to have true relationships with other believers. We all need sincere friends to help us get through this perplexed world. So begin to think about the people in your life, and get your team in order. Surround yourself with people that will help you to your destiny, not hinder it. Surround yourself with Kingdom People! “Keep Them Squares Up Out Your Circle”
As you choose your inner circle I leave you with Romans 15:5 – “May God, who gives this patience and encouragement, help you live in complete harmony with each other, as is fitting for followers of Christ Jesus.”
Peace, Grace, and Blessings